So, you’ve found my secret. Aspiring coconspirators, allow me to introduce myself…

It’s a unique challenge, to attempt to paint a portrait of one’s self by words alone. I could list traits and interests, but first, I’d like to share the philosophy of life that drives all else. We are mortal for such a brief moment. We are here on earth to educate our souls through the senses, and through our entanglement with one another. My interests are plentiful and varied, but at the center of everything, my goal is to live as much and as humanly as possible.

My first love is music. I was singing from the moment I could speak. I trained classically to stretch my range to the highest notes, sang arias in Italian, French, German. Music is a bit more private for me now, like a journal of poetry I tend to in the quiet hours, but from time to time I take to the jazz club stage and croon a bit of Nina Simone or Billie Holiday. This is not the only instance I find myself on stage, as my next love is stand up comedy. Storytelling, finding the humor in the everyday, the art of noticing. I live for the thrill of performing, leading a room to laugh and smile. I absolutely adore being on set, and work frequently as a photographer for films, create album artwork and press shots for touring musicians, or just make fun art with my beautiful friends. I’m a passionate foodie and enjoy cooking just as much as dining. I often host up to 30 people for multi course dinner parties (all complete with a proper theme of course) and welcome any opportunity to expand my pallet, whether it be a fine dining 12 course meal or hole in wall family joint.

Beyond my creative pursuits, I equally enjoy exercising my analytical side. I am a published research scientist, focusing on the intersections of social and sexual life and health. I’ve worked in clinics as a sexual health counselor as well for universities as a research director, but in recent years have stepped back from formal settings in favor of a life more well suited for a wandering soul. Instead of executing someone else’s research, I prefer to collect my own data in the wild. I find myself reading mostly non-fiction on various topics including religion, physics, philosophy, history, art, and anthropology. Ask me what I’m currently nerding out about, and don’t spare any details when sharing your own current fixations.

This far from conventional path I’ve chosen nurtures my hunger for knowledge, my unrelenting passion for expression, and deep love for all things human. I have immense gratitude for the opportunity to meet and connect with people I may otherwise never get the chance to know. Sharing such intimate moments, sometimes with a near stranger, is to me so central to what life is about. Tell me your story, what you believe, what you desire. I want to know your history, what sets your mind and body alight. I revel in the roles of confidant and muse. The satisfaction of curating a date where we can speak freely, indulge in our shared hunger, and prove yet again that magic is real and tangible. It’s for this reason I have a strong preference for longer engagements. Allow me to find the sexiest low lit restaurant in the city, where our hands can meet under the table, our gaze above. Let’s forget about our phones for a few days in favor of the sea breeze, crisp mountain air, or bustling city streets. My favorite people are curious nerdy freaks. Could that be you?

Tastes & Proclivities:

Interests: quantum physics, AI, philosophy, religion, design, world history, consciousness, singing, cooking, film, photography, yoga

Outings: jazz/techno club, tasting menu, ballet, opera, theatre, burlesque, wine tasting, shibari class, spa day, museums, nature retreat, film screening, room service & a bathtub

Wine: Pet Nat, skin contact, Lambrusco, dry champagne

Cocktails: Mezcal Negroni, filthy gin martini, Manhattan

Food: Thai, Japanese, fresh pasta, Mediterranean, ceviche, charcuterie, French pastries

Music: Nina Simone, Rachmaninov, Erroll Garner, Moby, Amy Winehouse

Films: Tarkovsky, Miyazaki, Yorgos Lanthimos, Agnès Varda

Designers: Jean Paul Gaultier, Vivienne Westwood, Yoji Yamamoto, Issey Miyake, Ann Demeulemeester

Lingerie: Maison Close, Bordelle, Anoeses, Fluer du Mal

Dream destinations: Vietnam, Thailand, Chile, Norway

Turn-ons: nerds, couples, hands under the table, anticipation, compassion, decisiveness

All bodies, genders, backgrounds & and experience levels welcome here! (21+)